When I woke up and looked outside at the unexpected snow the other day, I cried.
I literally shed tears over a few inches of snow. Why? Well, I’m tired of it. Similarly, when my three year old daughter is sleepy and her brother won’t stop staring at her, she cries. When I’m already worried about money and I come home to find an unexpected bill, I cry or I get cranky. It’s that no more feeling. Someone intervene. Save me, I’m being attacked. Take me away.
At the end of any long season – a harsh winter, a bad day, a financial dry spell – our reserves can get low. Small things become big things and we lose perspective. While I’m quite aware of how blessed I am; I still manage to find things to complain about.
With spring upon us, I’m ready for a new season. Not just because I’m tired of the snow, but because it is symbolic of new beginnings and regrowth. I’m ready to snap out of my funk, start appreciating more and complaining less. These simple concepts are helping me to get back on track.
Remember to live in the moment. Don’t wish your life away. When you tell yourself that you’ll be happy when this happens or that happens, you are robbing yourself of the moment.
Don’t compare your life to others. I don’t know what keeps you up at night, but everyone has something. It takes courage to trust where you are and find value in your own personal experience. Difficulties are opportunities, so don’t think you are being punished if things aren’t going your way.
Trust that what you need will come your way. No matter what seems to be going on, learn to trust that life is always leading you towards your greatest good. If you are doing everything in your power to make something happen and it’s still not working out for you, perhaps that is exactly what you need. Let go of what you can’t control.
Be resourceful. There’s no need to look outside of yourself for a miracle to transform your life. What you seek you already are. Instead of lamenting what you think you don’t have, take what you are and what you have and make it work for you.
Live simply. Learn to distinguish wants from needs. Our generation is so programmed to base our worth on our possessions. Invest your time and energy into creating things and building relationships.
Lastly, try this: Start each day with the mentality that no matter what happens, you will view it like it was strategically placed in your life, not to curse you, but to help you become a better version of yourself.
When I make this conscious effort, I notice that my mood is significantly more resilient and less likely to take drastic swings when things don’t go my way. It doesn’t make the problems magically smaller; it just gives me more motivation to face them. Everything is temporary and that gives me the courage to tolerate discomfort a little longer. Dig a little deeper. Rely on my faith. I live for the idea that every unwelcomed event, person or situation is really a doorway into the next me. Renewed. Replenished. Ready for the next season.
GG Renee Hill is a writer, blogger and soulful living coach based in the Washington DC area. She writes to help women embrace their complexity and live authentic, creative lives. You can find her sprinkling love dust daily on her blog, All the Many Layers. You can also follow her on Twitter and Instagram @ggreneewrites.